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Should we be Facebook friends just because we have lots of Facebook friends in common?

You are probably all aware that Facebook suggests friends.

Over the past few weeks, I've been friending everyone where I have more than 100 friends in common. I used to do it above 50 friends, then 60, 70, 80, 90 and now 100 friends.

I thought that if we have 100 friends in common on Facebook then we probably have something in common.

But I have discovered this not to be the case. Counter-intuitive?

The fact that we have perhaps a hundred friends in common doesn't make us friends. It just makes us people with 100 friends in common. It could be because the other person is a famous person, or famous in their field and so lots of people are connected to them. It doesn't make them a "friend".

I have very few really close friends, probably like many of you, i.e. people with whom I can share anything. And then I have the regulars on Facebook with whom I communicate almost daily and then I have followers who want to know what I post, but don't want to friend me (which is fine, actually a good thing in light of this latest awakening in me!), and then I have friends who are really associates, people with whom I have come into contact and I want to remember the contact, but we don't communicate on a regular basis.

So today I have unfriended about 30 of these new "friends". If you happen to be one of them and you want to be my friend, then friend me and send me a message telling me why we should be friends.

Note that I will continue tor reduce the number of friends I have on Facebook over time. I hope you don't mind. It's just that every friend needs "maintenance" looking at photos, looking at posts, replying, communicating (which for me is definitely two way) and even though I am not someone to be overloaded easily, I am one who is easily distracted by this technology and I want to reduce that.

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