You are probably all aware that Facebook suggests friends.
Over the past few weeks, I've been friending everyone where I have more than 100 friends in common. I used to do it above 50 friends, then 60, 70, 80, 90 and now 100 friends.
I thought that if we have 100 friends in common on Facebook then we probably have something in common.
But I have discovered this not to be the case. Counter-intuitive?
The fact that we have perhaps a hundred friends in common doesn't make us friends. It just makes us people with 100 friends in common. It could be because the other person is a famous person, or famous in their field and so lots of people are connected to them. It doesn't make them a "friend".
I have very few really close friends, probably like many of you, i.e. people with whom I can share anything. And then I have the regulars on Facebook with whom I communicate almost daily and then I have followers who want to know what I post, but don't want to friend me (which is fine, actually a good thing in light of this latest awakening in me!), and then I have friends who are really associates, people with whom I have come into contact and I want to remember the contact, but we don't communicate on a regular basis.
So today I have unfriended about 30 of these new "friends". If you happen to be one of them and you want to be my friend, then friend me and send me a message telling me why we should be friends.
Note that I will continue tor reduce the number of friends I have on Facebook over time. I hope you don't mind. It's just that every friend needs "maintenance" looking at photos, looking at posts, replying, communicating (which for me is definitely two way) and even though I am not someone to be overloaded easily, I am one who is easily distracted by this technology and I want to reduce that.
Cool?
Over the past few weeks, I've been friending everyone where I have more than 100 friends in common. I used to do it above 50 friends, then 60, 70, 80, 90 and now 100 friends.
I thought that if we have 100 friends in common on Facebook then we probably have something in common.
But I have discovered this not to be the case. Counter-intuitive?
The fact that we have perhaps a hundred friends in common doesn't make us friends. It just makes us people with 100 friends in common. It could be because the other person is a famous person, or famous in their field and so lots of people are connected to them. It doesn't make them a "friend".
I have very few really close friends, probably like many of you, i.e. people with whom I can share anything. And then I have the regulars on Facebook with whom I communicate almost daily and then I have followers who want to know what I post, but don't want to friend me (which is fine, actually a good thing in light of this latest awakening in me!), and then I have friends who are really associates, people with whom I have come into contact and I want to remember the contact, but we don't communicate on a regular basis.
So today I have unfriended about 30 of these new "friends". If you happen to be one of them and you want to be my friend, then friend me and send me a message telling me why we should be friends.
Note that I will continue tor reduce the number of friends I have on Facebook over time. I hope you don't mind. It's just that every friend needs "maintenance" looking at photos, looking at posts, replying, communicating (which for me is definitely two way) and even though I am not someone to be overloaded easily, I am one who is easily distracted by this technology and I want to reduce that.
Cool?
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